I'm still not sure that I think honesty always works, or is always possible. But sometimes, even (especially?) when you think it might hurt, it feels incredibly wonderful. It is liberating, freeing you from stupid fears and suppositions.

The reality of something is rarely as bad as we anticipate. This is why people prefer the reality of a bad test result to the uncertainty of one that is inconclusive. I am much happier when I know something for certain, as opposed to not understanding a situation. Certainty allows you to plan a course forward, even if it is not in the direction you anticipated or would have preferred.

Accepting ambiguity is much harder. I've gotten better at it in the last year, but it is more difficult to be at peace with it. Of course things never stand still, and they will always become muddled and ambiguous again with time. And that is fine. Too much certainty might be easy, but life wouldn't be nearly as exciting without change and development.